Hello! Um, well, I just need advice. I've never really dated before, and I'm horrible at flirting and the like because I'm so shy. But anyways, there is this Thai restaurant that I have gone to for years and just two weeks ago I discovered a new waiter there. Long story short, the first time our eyes met, I felt really warm inside. I've never really felt his way before about anyone. But I am too shy and inexperienced to say anything. I cannot even say hello, except for "thank you" when he refills my drink and takes away dishes. I also get really flustered and I can't eat right whenever he comes around to my table and I can't look him in the eye. I guess my question is how do I go about striking a conversation with him without sounding desperate or weird? I've never really talked to guys much (in a flirtatious way), so I just don't know what to do. Even more so a waiter!
A little background as to what has happened recently:
So I went with my parents for a little family date (this is when I first "met" him), and although he wasn't our server, he did help our table a lot. Afterwards my mother teased me and said that "he kept on staring". I laughed it off because I didn't believe it.
Then I went again about a week ago. Before we went I wouldn't stop thinking about him, and I was always vocal about going to the Thai restaurant to eat. But I only said for the food because I'm too shy about admitting I have a crush (but the food is pretty delicious as well!). Anyways, so a week ago my mother said she wanted to go out on a mother/daughter date since it's been a while, and she drove me to the Thai restaurant. The minute we walk into the door there is the waiter and I swear the whole world froze. He ended up being our server for that day, and I couldn't even eat haha. We only went for dessert so we left quickly and I felt so weird. I noticed that the whole kitchen and servers were staring at me as we were walking out, and I saw a couple of them whispering to each other. I'm really self conscious because I could feel their eyes on me, so I thought maybe I was being a bit obvious about my crush and they were making fun of me. Anyways he says "Have a nice day!" and all I could do was smile without saying a word... Once we get into the car, my mother then said to me: "You know I only came here for the both of you." So I don't really know what she meant, but I think it's obvious about my crush on the waiter, so she probably knows haha.
So YES, each time, I go. I don't say anything, and I regret it each time. Please I need advice haha, I don't like this heavy feeling on my heart. Lol and my gosh this all sounds so cheesy when I read over this. Oh well ^^'