I feel like a year ago the L&R section used to be full of racial baiting/trolling threads (still is), but now it's just become a series of threads full of misogyny, female stereotypes, and males telling us we're wrong and in denial for believing what we believe in. If we share a story that does shed a differing light on a topic of discussion, we're called rare exceptions and dismissed because it's not the "majority".
I think healthy discussion about topics are fine because these topics are very interesting to discuss since relationships and gender roles are things that are constantly evolving, but the "No, you're wrong for what you believe in because you're the minority of women." and the "Oh wow, finally an honest woman who backs up my argument. What a breath of fresh air." or "You're just an inexperienced girl who can't comprehend things." are pretty condescending and getting tiresome, if I'm being honest.
Some of these members are just full out trolls, which to me is okay to an extent, but I wouldn't accept a troll who is throwing out racial slurs, so I won't tolerate this either. Some of these members seem to defend women on one issue and then proceed to perpetuate other female stereotypes and misogynistic views, picking and choosing what to defend and when to insult us females, on other issues. Finally, some members are just plain misogynists. Regardless of the type of member they are, it shouldn't be tolerated.
Sometimes I do actually agree with the posters, but can I really agree when their comments are sometimes prefaced with misogynistic views?
I'm not saying this with clean hands, as I am definitely a participant of heated discussions, but hopefully it's something that I can change in myself and something that we start to think about before trying to impose our beliefs on others, tell others that they're just flat out wrong for believing what they do, or perpetuate certain stereotypes.
So I guess I'd just like to ask:
Have you ever felt attacked/insulted for being a female on soompi? (Or male for that matter)
Do you males feel like you're being at all stereotypical with some of the things you say about women? If not, can you explain why you don't feel that way?
I didn't make this thread as a lecture or anything, I'd just like to discuss in a healthy and polite manner our points of views on these issues. Any type of bashing or racial/gender slurs will be reported and hopefully warnings would be handed out if it does occur.
I think healthy discussion about topics are fine because these topics are very interesting to discuss since relationships and gender roles are things that are constantly evolving, but the "No, you're wrong for what you believe in because you're the minority of women." and the "Oh wow, finally an honest woman who backs up my argument. What a breath of fresh air." or "You're just an inexperienced girl who can't comprehend things." are pretty condescending and getting tiresome, if I'm being honest.
Some of these members are just full out trolls, which to me is okay to an extent, but I wouldn't accept a troll who is throwing out racial slurs, so I won't tolerate this either. Some of these members seem to defend women on one issue and then proceed to perpetuate other female stereotypes and misogynistic views, picking and choosing what to defend and when to insult us females, on other issues. Finally, some members are just plain misogynists. Regardless of the type of member they are, it shouldn't be tolerated.
Sometimes I do actually agree with the posters, but can I really agree when their comments are sometimes prefaced with misogynistic views?
I'm not saying this with clean hands, as I am definitely a participant of heated discussions, but hopefully it's something that I can change in myself and something that we start to think about before trying to impose our beliefs on others, tell others that they're just flat out wrong for believing what they do, or perpetuate certain stereotypes.
So I guess I'd just like to ask:
Have you ever felt attacked/insulted for being a female on soompi? (Or male for that matter)
Do you males feel like you're being at all stereotypical with some of the things you say about women? If not, can you explain why you don't feel that way?
I didn't make this thread as a lecture or anything, I'd just like to discuss in a healthy and polite manner our points of views on these issues. Any type of bashing or racial/gender slurs will be reported and hopefully warnings would be handed out if it does occur.